The Blog for the Ladies and the Gentlemen

To begin with, statistics has it that an average twenty one years old lady in naija have had at least one to two exes. Most reasonable ladies enter a relationship with at their mindsets set on atleast a 10% chance that this dude might become a husband at the end of it all, So what causes breakups in most relationships? Where is the bright blissful light at the end of the tunnel everyone never stops talking about? We all have one or two or more flaws we see in our guys that we don't like. Some are traditionalist, sexist, proud, demanding, crass, lazy, too exuberant, no goals. And the sad part is they think they are completely fine. *sigh* what can we do than hope and pray. Sorry if I sound one sided but my words are real, you know I'm being honest. Well I'm here today for my ladies. We all are not going to turn out to be nuns so we look at guys and see something but what do we look for? Pay attention guys, I'm gonna use this means to drop a few advice. The make ups an

Irrespective of the fact that some people do not respect the world of relationships and dating and believe it is a waste of energy, time and currency; I do. I mean, what is life without spice, spontaneity, romance, thrills, trips and the likes of it?  Some people question dating, they say; why should I waste my money on lunch  if I can use that to get a quickie at the corner of every club?  My brother, you cant continue living like this cause nothing good comes from the corner of every club. Well, this little write up is for our gentlemanly men. I'm here to help you out, make it easy a little for you. I'm not promising you anything superb at the end but to save you from getting red wine all over your outfit or having a nagging frowning lady opposite you, these are fifteen first date mistakes you don't wanna make; 1. Do not bring your friend without her consent. You dont know how rude it looks when she walks up to the car and realises she has to move to the back se

Has money always been a determining factor in relationships or it just started in this century; Ladies has it? Yeah most ladies wouldn’t date broke guys, I get it; why date a guy with a few peanuts when there are guys that groom the trees and park the peanuts in sacks and sacks right? Lets go back to the medieval age shall me; lets go to the 1500s.  Ladies, the first daughters to be precise, from poor backgrounds in France will marry rich merchants and royals; the likes of knights and the King’s right hands who can settle their sisters’ dowries so there sisters will be able to get married to wealthy men as well because the tradition was so that men didn’t pay the dowries those days, ladies did.  So yeah! It goes back to that age; people then and now will marry a man because of his money and leave love out of it. Remove sentiments from life right? People who have it all are the ones with no emotions right? Let me ask you a question young ladies; if you have been in a relationship wi

If there’s anything I’ve learnt in life, it’s the fact that the mind of a desperate being is desperately stupid. I can never forget those eight girls; we called them the heroic seven Chastity, Thomasine, Irete; the girl whose father owned a boat, Chika, Abigail, Pelumi, Josephine and Aminat.  I watched them as they raided the first aid box for the things they could use and took over the entrance of the cargo. They all sat and acted like they were up to nothing with Abigail their fearless leader telling them what to do. ‘Thomasine’ Kike called with concern in her voice. Thomasine ignored her. She looked at Abigail who signaled to her not to answer her ‘Ignore Kike’ Abigail said ‘Thomasine, remember what Uju said about being stupid’ Kike persisted ‘I’m not being stupid Kike, you’ll realize that when we come out of this cargo’ ‘There is no coming out of this container’ she interrupted impatiently then growled after ‘Kike please shut your stupid beak’ Chastity shouted ‘Don’t discour

3 The Den as we named it had two opposite windows that gave excess ventilation on the breezy sea irrespective of the fact that we had no thick clothes on. On the shelves above us were packages wrapped in brown papers neatly arranged in rows. Two dim bulbs lightened the place a detachable toilet was at one extreme end. There was no chair or table just a stool at the extreme end where a first aid box was rolled under and a twenty five liter keg was beside filled with water. Nurse Vivian as she introduced herself was the care taker kept to watch us. She was an average sized ladies probably in her thirties. She was dressed in a while nurse uniform and had a cream cardigan on. She was pretty with a bright smile, gap teeth and very soft spoken. To me she was practically the only person that knew how what we were going through at that moment ‘Trust me; I know how you girls feel. Most of you are scared and confused if not all’ she said walking round ‘Most of you have been injured while on yo

2 CONTINUATION I looked at Muna as she slowly woke up. Her left eye had turned black from the hit she got and I could tell that she was hurting. She groaned in pain as she opened her eyes attracting everyone’s attention ‘Shhh….’ I cautioned ‘Muna its okay’ I whispered. She opened her eyes and sighed ‘We’re still on the road?’ ‘Yeah. But I think they stopped twice to refill the tank. God we should get some ice for your eyes; it’s swollen and black’ I said with a squeeze on my face ‘Ice is the least of our problems Tonia’ she mumbled. I moved closer to her and rested my head of her shoulder ‘I know that Tonia; but we’ll be okay, we always are’ Muna looked up as if she could find some answers there ‘What time do you think it is at this moment?’ ‘Its one’ a girl said pointing at Sparrow’s wristwatch. I looked at her, so did Muna and Asher and the other girl whose name I hadn’t gotten yet ‘Hi… I’m Ejiro’ she said with a tomato smile on her face. She was chocolate skinned and obviou